Repost: Speak-up when you agree

This is huge. It’s so important.

If you don’t speak up when you agree, then you’re opening the door for a single dissenter to appear like the majority.

Whether it’s in a formal meeting, or just a “friendly” discussion over lunch with a group of people; affirm and agree when you like what’s being said. Let the others know that you agree. Explain why you personally agree.

When you do this, it helps keep the tone of the conversation/meeting positive. It keeps the cards on the table so to speak. When you don’t speak-up, it creates a tone of secrecy and keeping cards close to your chest. It allows people to (unhelpfully) think the worst, and assume that you do not agree.

So if you do agree, agree out loud.

There’s a certain kind of “yes” you’re looking for

There are different kinds of “yes” you can get from people.
Sometimes “yes” means “Alright FINE!”. Sometimes “yes” means “OK, but if this backfires I’ll say I told you so”. Sometimes “yes” means “You kind’a understand what I’m saying but not 100%”. Sometimes “yes” means “YES!!! You understand me!” Or “YES! I’m really excited about this!”
It’s worth deciding beforehand what type of yes you’re going for. The latter ones take a lot more time and effort than the former ones.