One of the common ways which those of us in christian leadership fail is in our communication. We communicate ideas and big pictures of things that are clear in our head, however… our hearers only get a fuzzy idea of what we’re saying.
One of the ways to improve anything you’re communicating is by spelling out some of the potential consequences. For example:
“I’d like you to join our kids team… you’re going to miss-out on Sunday sleep-ins ’till 10am for the rest of the year.”
“I’m glad you’ve repented of this sin… you’re going to need to tell James and say sorry to him too.”
“This is going to be a big responsibility… I need to make clear that if you fall into gross sin or ignore your responsibilities, it will damage a lot of people’s trust and there might be cause for public rebuke.”
Put yourself in their shoes, and imagine the the things they’re going to experience… make it clear because it’s your vision about their life.