Whether you’re leading a growth group, preaching a sermon or just a one on one… don’t just say everything and rely on people’s hearing and memory. If they are listening to you, they’ll be able to finish your sentence.
What’s more; people remember what they say 1000% more than they remember what others say. You ask someone what they learned in your GrowthGroup last night, and they’ll rattle off WHAT THEY SAID – regardless of what the passage/study was about.
Also, getting people to finish your sentences forces them to do serious thinking; it requires listening, understanding, integration, creativity, boldness and humility. Don’t deny them that.
Lastly, if you let people finish your sentences, there’s even a chance they’ll find a word that picks up everything you want, but communicates it even… ?
Ok, shaky ground here. I’m just throwing around ideas – might change my mind tomorrow… who knows.
If you’re in Christian leadership, and you’re part of a small team, you’ll want to be reading the bible with everyone you meet. That’s a really important thing; it models sola scripture and the philosophy of biblical ministry.
But if you’re part of a large team, and there’s a good culture of bible reading in your ministry, do you need to – as much?
Say you catch up with one of the guys who’s helping with youth group. He’s in a Growth Group, the Youth Pastor’s meeting up with him 1:1, he’s regular at church, etc… I’m not sure that cramming in 30mins of bible time is going to be that effective.
Especially if you’re going to ask him to take on an extra responsibility from your plate. If you’re going to delegate, that takes LOTS of time, lots of conversations, lots of back and forth. (S2 – S3 Leadership Styles)
Don’t NEVER open the bible. A pastor’s heart will always end up taking people back to the scriptures, so expect to land there. But don’t get too caught up in having to do it all the time, if they already are.
Keen to do FT ministry? Want to become a great preacher? Want to see 100s, nay, 1000s of people saved? Great! Do 1 to 1 ministry.
It helps you to develop trust for God working through his word to change people.
It helps you understand how – so often – people don’t understand the bible when they read it.
It helps keep you humble as you see how people don’t change just because you tell them to.
It helps you understand the bible really really really really really really really really well as you think about teaching people in other ways – like preaching.
Of course, this is assuming you read the bible with people when you do 1 to 1. So do that.