relationships
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Responding to Passive Aggressive comments
A good way (tho not the only way) to respond to PA comments is to call their bluff. If they’re hinting that you’ve left something undone, ask them straight; “Is there something you wanted me to do?”. If they’re hinting… Continue reading
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How to identify passive agressive comments
Passive Agressive (PA) comments infer that there is a problem (or that you have a problem) without actually saying that there’s a problem. For example; “My last church never did it this way“, “That might make some people feel left… Continue reading
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Spaghetti and Pigeon-holes: another “Men vs Women” post
One day I should write a post about how men and women are the same. But not today. Someone once suggested that mens’ brains are like pigeon-holes and womens’ brains are like spaghetti. I like that analogy and find it… Continue reading
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Don’t condone accusations
Accusations – in any forum – are always serious. Whether your in a formal minuted meeting, a public forum, an online discussion or a private conversation; accusations are serious forms of gossip. Accusations commonly move from talking about events to… Continue reading
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Turn feelings into numbers
Not every time, but sometimes, its really helpful to ask people to translate their feelings into numbers… just a simple scale of 1-10. It’s great because it avoids too-positive and too-negative assumptions. When someone says, “Yeah, I’m ok” what do… Continue reading
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