rebuking
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As much as possible, don’t be the messenger
If you’re preaching, you are the messenger. And if your passage is saying “hard things” you – as the preacher – can feel like you’ve got to be the messenger of these hard words. But that’s not the best way… Continue reading
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If you doubt they’ll like the rebuke, that might be a better conversation to start with
Paul sets a pattern of pastoral ministry for Timothy that includes “teach, correct, rebuke and encourage” from the word of God. So there will be times when we are to lovingly and encouragingly rebuke people’s actions and decisions. Sometimes, we… Continue reading
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Reblog – Only rebuke when…
Only rebuke when there’s not a conflict of interest; don’t do it because they’ve hurt your friend’s feelings, or to make someone else happy, don’t do it because it will give you an advantage. Only rebuke when you’ve distanced yourself… Continue reading
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A great 3rd party in difficult discussions… a pen a paper
When you need to have a difficult conversation, one of the keys is to de-personalise it. You want to avoid them feeling attacked by you. You want to avoid it turning into a “relational issue” (simply because this is an… Continue reading
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Spell out the consequences… clearly and with examples
One of the common ways which those of us in christian leadership fail is in our communication. We communicate ideas and big pictures of things that are clear in our head, however… our hearers only get a fuzzy idea of… Continue reading
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Unfortunately, behaviours dictate theology
It would be nice if people developed their personal beliefs from the Bible, and only from the Bible. But that’s just not the world we live in. The reality is that people have experiences, they make choices, they have behaviours… Continue reading
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Challenge people about specific sins, not vague ones
Asking people about sin in their life is hard. Its awkward, beat-around-the-bush, so-how-you-going-in-that-area, vague conversation. But that’s very rarely helpful or loving for people. Because Jesus didn’t die for vague “areas” of sin. Jesus died for each and every specific… Continue reading
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Outline the consequenses
Sometimes when we delegate, we can be tempted to only focus on the positives. e.g. How great it could be! These cool things will happen! etc. But an important part of coming to one mind as you hand over responsibility… Continue reading
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